Find something about them that you really admire (Cassie's strong Christian faith or Daniel's drive to overcome his weaknesses for example) and then do it yourself!
Do something positive in your home and in your community to reduce the levels of violence, hatred,
and child alienation.
We have become very close with the families of the other victims. Soon after the tragedy we gathered for a casual meeting at a church in order to get to know each other. Shortly thereafter we came together over a hot issue--the fact we heard that the school district was planning to re-open the library where ten of our kids were murdered. We heard they were going to simply make cosmetic changes to the library (remove the carpet, repaint, replace shelves that had bullet holes, etc.) We were upset at that prospect and began our effort to remocve the library. (See related story.)
That was a satisfying effort, but it took countless meetings. We continue to meet monthly to
finish out that project and discuss other issues that linger. We get together for special events, such as sentencing
hearings for those who bought the guns for the Columbine killers, ceremonies to award scholarships in our kids'
names, etc. But most importantly, we get together for a social gathering. These parents are wonderful people who've
become special friends to us. Obviously, if ANYone knows what we've ben through, it's THEM!